I had a similar struggle in my early 20’s and it became harder when I had kids, the fomo became harder to ignore. It felt like I was always missing out on something. Now I realize that the time with family and the time in solitude are the most precious moments.

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Yes, the balancing act of living up to the entrepreneur axiom of hustling and spending time with people you love most.

If we are hustling for them, then when is the point where your hustling is enough to be with them?

Is sacrificing 365 a year hustling, not having time with them, not being present with them so you can give them a luxury life or a huge monetary legacy mean that you love them?

(Maybe hustling 365 when you’re not married and in your early 20s to 30s make better sense)

Is that your own definition of loving them or is that what they want to feel loved by you?

These are questions I often ask myself in times of solitude.

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I feel very identified with this, there are times when I feel like I should rest but I always want to be doing something, I feel that if I don't I would be wasting my time.

I am married and have a daughter (I love them with all my heart) and I work hard to provide them with everything they need and I think about our future, that's why I push myself to give more of myself every day. This sometimes leads to a time when I need to stop, sometimes I can't with so much pressure. I understand that I have to work on this and I'm really doing it, because all my life can't be like this.

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I suggest you read this book

" The subtle art of not giving a fuck" by mark manson

Helped me out enormously.

Happy Thursday Alex

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Always with my wife, which I absolutely love...but I am a big fan of solitude as well. I wake at 4 AM just to have that 90 minutes of quiet time to do some yoga, meditate, and either journal for a bit or read while drinking my coffee. This foundation always helps prepare me for the day ahead 💪

Fun fact: at one point I seriously considered becoming a monk 😅

But to your point, Alex, solitude, when done with intentionality, is quite powerful. Very grateful and happy that you found your way to where you are now, my friend! 🥰

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